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Ever wonder how you could become like the popular girls in movies and on TV? Well, you can if you follow these simple steps. Soon, you’ll be looking forward to school and strutting down the hallways with all the eyes on you. You’ll be the most known girl in school; the girl everyone idolizes, the girl everyone loves, always has something fun to do, and guys drool over.

1. It dosen’t matter what everybody says, your fine the way you are.
2. # Change is Good. remember who you are in the making of this change.Get used to the idea that you are dynamic and constantly changing. People say “don’t change and just be yourself” and this is true, but be your best self. Take it one step at a time, and build your confidence. Popular people are social and very busy.
3. Listen more than you talk. People will want to be around someone who flatters their ego more than a chatterbox, who stalks them.You can’t listen with your mouth open. Ask them questions, but not enough to sound like a stalker. People love a person who takes the time to find more about them. I mean,what’s not to like about a person who likes you?
4. Find the the most popular trio of the school and get to be close friends with them. In this trio should include the most popular girl in school. Then start your own trio with 3 other girls who are potentially popular while hanging out with your old trio. From that,you have the potential to become the most popular girl in school,which means you should start living up to your potential.
5. Don’t Be Stupid, Be Empathetic. They know when someone needs a friend, a compliment, a hug, and exactly how the other person is feeling. They start casual conversations. It’s okay to be shy and have nerdy tendencies, but if you want to be popular, you have to smile, start conversations, and relate to people at their own level. That means talk about what the other person is interested in. Don’t get used to the idea that you are shy or whatever, get used to the idea that you are constantly changing, and that you are developing your social skills to the point where you could relate to all people. You have the “right” to change and grow.
6. Always keep in mind the definition of popular: many people consider you a friend/ admire you Have you ever noticed that people who are friends with total creeps, and all sorts of unusual people are generally liked more, and more sought after, than “popular” kids? This is because they have an eclectic side, and judge on more than appearances. People are much less intimidated by someone who is friends with a hunchback, and a butch lesbian than a chick who spends seventy dollars on pants, and puts anyone less lovely than themselves down. They are also totally intrigued by that mysterious and diverse clan you have created. Eventually the exclusive crew you were so afraid of will reveal to you that they are humans too, and let you in, just make sure that is not your sole aim. (And if they don’t let you into their group, don’t let it bother you. If they’re that close-minded, they’re probably part of the seventy dollar pants crowd.)
7. Be confident. Stop thinking you are ugly or that you aren’t cool enough. Everyone is either beautiful on the inside, outside, or both. Be comfortable with that! Think of your qualities for a while. You’re cool through them. Just believe in yourself and let people meet you. If you don’t feel it, fake it. Think that you are cool and pretty, because once you start believing it, others do, too, but don’t be conceited. Also, to be confident wake up every morning and tell yourself how pretty you are. It may sound conceited but it is a great way to start the day. Nobody will believe your beautiful if you don’t.
8. Take care of yourself. This doesn’t mean you have to starve your body.. Actually, starving yourself makes you lose less weight than you would if you did eat and it messes up your metabolism. Rather, try to get into shape. Eating healthy and exercising everyday is important and effective; so is staying clean with good hygiene. Drinking plenty of water can help your skin look great and improve your overall health. If you get to the point where you feel good about your body and the great shape you keep it in, others will see that.
9. Get your own clothes sense lined out. It’s no secret that style can get you far in the girl world. You can shop at the popular stores and if you can afford it, try to buy designer clothes and classic accessories (don’t buy cheap knockoffs and try to pass them off as real). However, you can be very fashionable by creating outfits from stores such as Abercrombie, Hollister, American Eagle, Garage, Lululemon, H&M and Aeropostale. Also stores like Old Navy have some very fashionable clothes for less money. Forever 21 has some nice selections as well. Check out fashion magazines, and study how outfits are made, and how they turn fashionable and gorgeous.It’s also great to develop your own unique style, adding individual touches that are really you, instead of copying everybody else. Be unique. Accessories like earrings, belts, bags, etc. can do wonders.(You can get some really unique pieces from H&M and Forever 21.) Don’t wear clothes that make you feel uncomfortable-you won’t pull it off.
10. Take your hair for a ride. While not essential, a change to your hair could be just the wake-up call you need to feel confident and get out there as a popular girl. As with everything else, make sure your hair is well-groomed and taken care of as often as possible. Shower every day, wash your hair at least 3-4 times a week, and condition (from the middle of the hair down). Get a comb and make it silky by brushing it! The smaller the comb the less knots! Also, spend extra time on your hair in the morning. Nobody wants a hat day!
11. Apply makeup carefully if you like putting on makeup. You don’t really need makeup but putting it on could make a big boost in your confidence. While most popular girls wear makeup, it’s important to be tasteful about it. You really want people to think you’re not wearing any makeup at all. Makeup can help you to emphasize things you like about your appearance, and draw attention away from things you don’t. Be sure to blend your makeup so it will not stand out and that way it will look natural. Concealer, mascara, lip gloss, and maybe some eyeshadow or liner, are all you need. Carry these things around with you in a cute bag for touch-ups. However powder and mascara don’t need to be touched up because you can carry blotter paper with you to take care of oil. You should always remember that there are quite a few of popular girls who wear no makeup, and are still gorgeous. Don’t wear garish or over done makeup-it screams desperate.
12. Be outgoing. Being shy won’t win you any new friends. You’re going to have to get out there and talk to people. You cannot be afraid to talk to others. Whether it’s chatting up to popular girls in class or at lunch, getting yourself invited to the hottest parties, getting the best grade on tests or winning an athletic contest, make your name known. Everybody needs to know who you are. Like people and show it. Be friendly and interested in people, and many of them will like you back. You don’t win popularity by hiding in the corner or expecting people to approach you and suddenly appreciate you for the true gem you are. If you’re shy, make friends with really outgoing people. They will encourage you to talk to other people, and soon it will be easy for you. Make sure to talk about things that other people are interested in. People are really passionate about talking about their interests.(Be yourself)
13. Get involved. Popular girls are usually well-rounded, and comfortable in almost every sphere of the school. Join a sports team or club. This will help you to meet many new people and establish you in the school. Be sure to do something you actually like, as people can tell when you’re faking. No one likes someone who does a sport or club just to be popular. Try to do an after school activity every day if possible. Come up with clever ideas for decorating dances or running the school newspaper. Let people know the real you!
14. Don’t try too hard. Don’t think that if you do a certain thing, they will like you. You must try some of their ideas, and their

Make positive changes and choices in your life. These simple steps will give your self-esteem a boost. Just relax, and be yourself!

1. Define what your goals are by writing them down. Think positive.
2. Practice good posture at all times (sitting, standing, walking), especially when you’re walking alone.
3. Stay well groomed. Wash your hair often (enough for your hair type) and bathe yourself often. Don’t get too obsessed every minute on how you look. One of the important things about being confident is being comfortable with yourself and your body. If you feel the need to, carry simple things with you like a small hairbrush, lip gloss/chap stick, and a small bottle of body spray.
4. Shop or make your own unique style. Buy what you like to wear and what makes you happy. Don’t wear anything just because a certain crowd is. If you like the normal jeans and t-shirt look then, it’s totally you. As long as you’re comfortable, you’ll become confident. Follow your own standards.
5. Personalize your look. Being unique and confident is all about your personal uniqueness. If you like wearing jewelry, go for it! If you don’t like wearing jewellery, that’s your personal taste and no one should tell you otherwise. Body/facial piercings, tattoos, and hair dye are other ways you can personalize your look. Like jewellery, these things are not for everyone and you shouldn’t do it if you don’t feel comfortable with it.
6. Remember to make sure you always have pads/tampons in your bag at all times and change pads regularly to prevent accidents.
7. Study all your schoolwork and do your very best every time. Study for tests, do homework and all assigned reading. Answer questions in class and ask questions relating to the topic. Don’t be afraid if you still don’t understand what you’re learning, talk to your fellow classmates or talk to your teacher. You can’t pass your classes if you don’t ask questions. Being smart is not weird. People who think that are not smart.
8. Speak properly- clearly and audibly, and don’t swear a storm. If you have a swearing problem, make up your own “swear word replacements”. Instead of saying the ‘F-word’, replace it with the word “frick” or “fudge.” A simple word replacement is always better than the actual swear word. If you can, eventually eliminate these slang terms.
9. Develop your talents. If you’re good at dancing, take up a class and polish your skills; if you’re good at sports, take lessons and join a team.
10. Join some clubs if you’re a good socialite or want to get over your shyness. It can boost your confidence level, help you develop your social skills, and help you make some friends.
11. Participate in your hobbies. If you love music, go ahead and don’t be afraid to whip out your Ipod or CD player(If the time is appropriate of course)Read books or write poetry if you love it. Paint, draw, swim, or watch Anime if it’s your personal thing. Everybody has different hobbies and there’s nothing wrong with expressing it. Remember: It’s all about what makes you happy, not doing it because someone else wants you to.
12. Let go of friends who do not respect you or like you for you. If you feel your friends have less respect for you, talk to them. Let them know your feelings and how you would like to be treated like a friend. If someone makes you feel not “good” enough-they are no friend and dump them quickly.
13. Understand that it is weak to let your fellow peers or students walk all over you, this is big problem if you’re shy or the type of person who really likes to please people. Don’t be afraid to say “no” if the situation calls for it. Example situations would be if a friend asked you to help them cheat or copy off of your homework.
14. Stay nice to everyone you come across, and smile at people when you pass them while walking.
15. Socialize and make friends with your parents, and make conversation with adults, but remember to be polite.
16. Understand that it feels terrible to feel pressured into having a relationship or going and dating if you’re not ready. As a teenager, you’re growing up, but you also have to respect your own boundaries and limits. When the time comes, you’ll know and you’ll be much happier that you waited until you were ready.
17. Remember to never feel pressured into doing drugs, getting drunk, or having sex. These are one of the biggest problems as a teenager. Drugs are not a good thing in the first place and it is preferable that you don’t do it at all. It can do serious damage and ruin your good reputation. Don’t go out and get drunk. First off as a teenager, you’re underage. Second, getting drunk can be dangerous, you can do things you’ll regret. If you’re in a relationship, don’t let your partner pressure or guilt you into sex. You do it when you’re ready and you do it safely. Read this poem, it will change your whole point of view about drinking. [[1]]
18. Be yourself! Don’t give into high school stereotypes like being a prep, emo, or punk rocker. Your own style is what you make it. If someone calls you a poseur, brush it off.
19. Think positive! Don’t feel pressured to look exactly like a model or celebrity. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and if you think you’re beautiful, then you are beautiful!
20. Forget any slights and don’t take insults to mind. If someone calls you a mean name, shrug it off, however, if someone compliments you, take it in. Think about it.
21. Learn that if someone comes up to you and says “You have a great figure” or “You have, like, perfect lips” thank them and smile. Not only will it make you happy, but it will also make someone else feel good that they did something nice. They also might become your friend.
22. Practice looking at yourself in the mirror and saying, “I love you!” or, “Look at me…I am super sexy.”…you could grab a chair and sit in front of the mirror, and state all the good things about you, the things that make you a beautiful girl just the way you are. Don’t compare yourself to a movie star.

Everyone is unique in their own way and you don’t have to look like a super model to feel and look beautiful. These tips and steps will help you to appreciate yourself more than you have been. Feel beautiful!

1. Don’t listen to what other people say about you. Not even your very close friends or parents. Tell them, “If you don’t like the way I look or am, that is fine with me. I think I look beautiful and that’s all that matters.” True friends and family shouldn’t judge the way you look.
2. Find confidence in yourself. You know you can do this and before going on anything else, your full potential booster is your confidence.
3. Look in the mirror, look at others. You don’t look like them, they don’t look like you. You’re unique. No one else looks like you, the only amazing you!
4. Go through your belongings and remove the clutter. Ask yourself how each object makes you feel. If it reminds you of something unfortunate or brings your energy down in any way, get rid of it, and make space for something new. Trust that what you need will come to you. Shopping is good when you feel it is right, but avoid any compulsive shopping (or other negative behaviors) as it projects neediness, which will reflect on your looks.
5. Let go of all ideas that promise “beauty” and instead aim for health. Trim your hair if it will make it healthy, lose weight if it will make you healthy, use home made skin creams and toners to keep your skin healthy, or eat healthy foods to be beautiful. Respecting your health is a formula for beauty but also for success across the board, and this includes the respect for others. Beauty is a state of naturalness.
6. Spend time with friends and family. Socialize! This will make you socially active, outgoing, and will add character and confidence.
7. Find something that you can do well. It can be a hobby, volunteering, or even your job. There’s always something you can do and actually succeed in. Try to co-operate with others, and don’t be scared to ask for help. Be useful and productive!
8. Be open to new things and go for it!
9. Be comfortable with yourself. This is you, after all. Plastic surgery doesn’t ultimately help self-esteem.
10. Exercise! it makes you feel better about yourself as well as gives you more energy.
11. Be yourself. It shows your own uniqueness, and what is better than that?
12. Be confident about every aspect of yourself and your life!
13. Smile! It’ll make you feel and look a lot happier!
14. Don’t look at other people and envy them - look at them and think that perhaps they envy something about you. There is always something that you have that someone else doesn’t.
15. Find something that is uniquely beautiful. Even while looking at other people you will notice certain parts of them that you find very attractive. Never is a person attractive “all over”, and everybody has at least one thing they would like to change about their appearance. Realize that once you have found what you find attractive that you also have something similar unique and attractive that you may just not see. Once you have found it, watch yourself exercising it, using it to your advantage to make you feel good about yourself.
16. Do what you’re good at. For example if English is your forte, write essays, or if you’re brilliant at sports don’t be afraid to play matches.
17. Make a list of who you are and what you like.
18. Do something unexpected that gives you confidence, like dancing in public if you’re shy, shopping somewhere you usually wouldn’t think of, or dyeing your hair a crazy color.
19. Make a list of compliments you’ve received from others so that you can look back on it.
20. Find what you think is your best feature and have fun with it. If you really like your hair, try a new hair style, for example.
21. Spend time in a ‘happy place’. Spending time with family and friends is an automatic cheer booster, they know and love you for who you are!
22. Embark your day by exclaiming to yourself in the mirror each day when you get up how awesome and beautiful you are. That may seem selfish, but it will help you feel good.
23. You were born in this world for yourself. You were given this life not to get oppressed under the realms of expectations of others but to live each and every day for merely yourself. It is your responsibility to make every cell of your body happy and jovial.
24. Give people around you reasons to make them think that they are beautiful. If you do that to others, it will be returned to you.
25. Being happy can really help you to feel great and be who you are. Even if you are shy and not many people notice you, you will always be beautiful to the people who care about you. Never forget it.
26. Your life is what you make of it. If you make yourself out to be beautiful, then that’s the way you live your life, so live you life to the fullest, most beautiful way possible, and that’s the way you will feel!

1. Smile. People who smile are generally happier, healthier, and have more friends!
2. Think of your good qualities; you have a lot! Go in front of the mirror and say something nice about yourself. Believe in yourself so that when you go out there, people admire your confidence.
3. Look good. Care about your appearance and about your clothes. They don’t have to be expensive, they just have to look nice. Have your own unique style; don’t try to dress like anyone else. Take care of your hair, scent, body, skin, nails, and teeth.
4. Compliment people you meet (if you see anything you like.) Meet lots of new people and be friendly with them.
5. Be flirty sometimes. It is fun to smile at, look at, and talk to your crush or any cute guys/girls that you like.
6. Throw parties when you can and invite people from your classes. Don’t let it get too out of hand, though, or you could be in big trouble.
7. Pay attention to classes, study, and complete homework. School is important, no matter what other people say.
8. Be yourself all the time, because pretending or imitating someone else is not good and not comfortable. See your awesome qualities, improve your bad ones, and be proud of who YOU are.
9. Don’t stick to one person all the time. You can have close friends, and even a best friend, but if you stick to one friend at all times, you’ll never meet anyone new.
10. Be up to have fun. If anyone suggests something to do, as long as it’s legal, healthy, and doesn’t go against your principles, don’t turn it down. Be known to be someone who will support anything fun. It is exciting and it makes you grow when you jump out of your comfort zone. But don’t do anything that feels uncomfortable for the sake of being cool!
11. Make friends with energetic, fun-loving people. This will ensure that you have lots of fun all the time. But this does not mean that you should ignore quieter people or not be their friend; try to make friends with everyone. Just make sure that at least a few of them are fun for you to be with.
12. Always have something up. Every week or so, start an new fun project such as writing a song, and let some cool friends know about this. Always be looking forward to something–a school play you’re going to be in, a party, a concert, or a carnival.
13. Be known on the social scene. This means you go to all the cool parties, concerts, join school clubs, go out, and be known for your talents. Especially work on your natural talents; this will make you feel confident and happy. If you’re good at dancing, join a dance club and perform at talent shows.
14. Look friendly and approachable. Laugh, play and act silly. This shows people that you’re confident and fun and people will want to get to know you.
15. Make sure you’re in on all things cool. Learn the new popular dance, popular music, and get to know popular people. Don’t get sucked into the “I have to be just like the popular kids” mode, though. Keep your own style and personality alive.
16. Say what you want. Even if it’s “uncool”. You need to stand up for yourself and your beliefs. Be the change you want to see in your life. However, do not say offensive or hurtful things to other people. Not cool.
17. Be random. Say unusual things. Stand out from the crowd and keep it interesting. Try not to be too unusual, however, as this may backfire and make you seem unapproachable.
18. Laugh at jokes that are funny, but don’t feel like you have to laugh at jokes that aren’t funny, if people ask you why they you aren’t laughing at their “funny joke” then say why you think its not funny.
19. Dress in a way that you like, makes you feel pretty, and isn’t an eyesore for others. Don’t dress in a inappropriate way that only gives people the impression that you are asking for attention.
20. Be modestly sarcastic. Don’t always say mean things, but if you see the irony in something, people will appreciate your wit.
21. Be smart and act smart. That doesn’t mean you should be a nerd or correct people whenever they make mistakes. Just make the best choices possible and make your ideas and work intelligent.
22. Don’t do things just for the sake of looking or feeling cool. That’s the most uncool thing that you can possibly do, and later you will look back on what you did and say, “Wow, look how dumb I was. I thought I was so cool, but I was just being stupid.”
23. Like who you are. After all, if you don’t like you, how can other people? Be comfortable in your own skin, and make choices that will allow you to respect yourself. Respect for yourself is ten times more important than others’ respect for you. YOU have to live with you, not anyone else.
24. Don’t get in fights with people. It never works out and only causes hurt feelings. Fighting just makes more enemies, and that is not what you want.
25. Learn the above rules, and then forget them and don’t worry about “being cool.” The coolest kids are the ones who don’t care too much about looking cool, and just do their own thing, their own way (within reason).

Fashion isn’t about Abercrombie and Fitch, fake Chanel bags, or copying from a celebrity. Fashion is about YOU. Here’s how to develop your own style.

1. Research designers and look at their ready to wear collections. True, you probably won’t be able to buy that fabulous Marc Jacobs dress, but it helps to have some inspiration.
2. Look at reputable fashion magazines such as Vogue, Elle and Women’s Wear Daily. If you want something targeted for your age group, try Teen Vogue. Again, these are awesome sources for inspiration (and fashion gossip!)
3. After inspiration comes (you guessed it)…shopping! You don’t need to shop at stores like Abercrombie and Hollister to be fashionable (actually, these stores are often frowned upon in the fashion industry.) In fact, you’ll have better luck at thrift stores! This decade in fashion takes vintage and adds a twist to it. Try places like adorevintage.com for excellent vintage clothing. If you don’t want to shop vintage try department stores like Macy’s or Nordstrom. They have a wide selection of clothing, so you are bound to find what you are looking for. If you are a bit more into band shirts and skinny jeans as such you would find in Hot Topic, don’t overdo it. If you are a guy, wearing girl pants portrays in many people’s eyes an “emo kid” image. Maybe find some slim-fitting, not skintight jeans, at American Eagle or Aeropostale. Keep colors in your wardrobe! Wearing black and white all the time is not the way to go. Try to find clothes with bright colors, but keep some darks in there too. A general rule of thumb is to keep colors varied.
4. Now that you have a wardrobe, it’s time to flaunt it! Don’t try to match things. The fashion industry is not mitchy-matchy. Look at silhouettes from designs you like and emulate them. Or even better, create your own designs!
5. Stay up to date by reading fashion blogs, looking at new fashion lines, and reading Vogue or Elle. Seventeen is a good magazine, but it is more “trendy” than “Fashionable.” Incorporate the trends you like from the runway into your style.
6. Try not to dress like a slob everyday. It’s okay to have the occasional lazy day where you just chill out in jeans and a sweatshirt, but don’t do it everyday. It doesn’t portray a tasteful image.
7. Forget about brands. Fashion is not a tee with “American Eagle” plastered on the front. Labeling yourself is a stupid thing to do and just proves that you are more of crowd follower than a fashion foward teen.
8. There are more designers than Louis Vuitton and Chanel! Research them, love them! But don’t worship them.
9. People don’t care if you are rich. In fact, with all the fake bags, wearing a bag with a giant logo will just make you look tacky. Don’t flaunt your money. Be conservative with it.
10. Don’t be snotty with people. Respect their style, even if they do just follow the crowd.

These days, most teenagers feel there is a law that if you don’t look good, you’re not a good person. That’s wrong! You shouldn’t judge a book by its cover. Although you can’t really change people’s views. So, this article can help you to look & feel your best.

1. Brush teeth and use mouthwash, and floss at least 3 times a day. Also, try chewing sugar-free gum all through the day, especially after meals.
2. Use deodorant, even if you think you don’t smell. Because, to be honest, you probably do.
3. Look after your hair! If you have curly hair, use hair products suited for curly hair such as Garnier. If you have straight hair, use hair products that promote silky, smooth locks such as Sunsilk or Treseme. If you have African/Caribbean hair use hair products that can control your hair, such as Dark and Lovely or Soft’n'Free.
4. Shave or wax any hair that you don’t want on your body. Don’t shave everything all at once though, or you may find you’ll get carried away and end up like an alien. Best results with shaving, exfoliate your legs first, towel dry, then cover legs in shaving foam (Lots of it!) and shave. Be careful not to get into the habit of over-shaving (like shaving everyday, for instance) as it will just make the hair grow back thicker and it’ll end up being a huge hassle.
5. Take care of your nails! Get a manicure & pedicure every week. You don’t even have to go to a salon, they’re pretty easy to do, just get a nail file, nail cutters, clear nail varish, a nail varnish of your choice, and a buffing nail file. You do the math on what you do with them. (If you don’t know what to do, look around wikiHow!)
6. Fight the habits! Stop biting your nails, chewing your hair, sucking your thumb, & all that. It’s difficult, but think of the end production: you looking flawless.
7. Smile! Seriously! It makes you alot prettier and approchable, and the brushing, mouth-washing, and flossing will help.
8. Apply a bit of make-up. Don’t plaster it on, and use neutral colours. Use bold mascara to make your eyes seem bigger! Lip balms and glosses are cute, but use lip stick to achieve a sexier look. Blusher on top of moisturizer is great for looking fabulous!
9. Remember you can change your look but it’s not always good to change your personality if you want to fit in, so, with that being said, be yourself. Yep, that’s a bit cliche, but it’s the truth! Being yourself will make you look (even more) beautiful.
10. For makeup use blush, mascara,lipgloss or lipbalm.Don’t over do it you will look trashy

Follow these steps to mature/improve yourself for your dream boy as well as your own good.

1. Have some self-respect. There are so many girls who are basically throwing their true love life away by throwing themselves at guys — dressing, talking, socially and sexually interacting dirtily in order to get a boyfriend. Act differently and you’ll stand out — in a good way.
2. Be nice. Greet people you know when you see them. Greet adults and teachers. You’d be surprised about how good you will feel afterwards.
3. Smile. Boys love to see girls smile. The sense of happiness is key.
4. Wake up with confidence. Focus on the good things in your life. Wake up with the feeling of success and strive to make another positive day.
5. Stay on top of your work. Guys like smart girls. Guys like the comfort of having support when in academic doubt. Do not act dumb, no matter how cute and attractive you think it is. It turns guys off, because they dont always want a girl looking dumbfounded with everything.
6. Love your friends and family. Boys like sweet girls. Especially girls who treat their family and friends with respect.
7. Be yourself. Boys like creativity and honesty. That is all shown when you’re being yourself. Don’t dumb yourself down to make guys like you.
8. Stay clean. Smoking, drinking, drug use, stealing, using bad language - those are all turnoffs to sweet guys. Drinking a lot even when at the appropriate age limit still can show insecurity, unawareness, and immaturity.
9. Love yourself. This doesn’t mean be a narcissist. Egotistical girls are far from the hottest thing to guys. But love yourself to the point where you are not afraid to be who you are, and you are proud of your accomplishments.
10. Avoid stress. Boys freak out during stress. Girl stress is totally different from guys’ stress. If you want support from your guy friend, turn your problem into an understandable situation where the boy can relate, guide you, and help you get through it.
11. Give your best — you’ll get the best. Give the boy all that he deserves; always love him as much as he can love you. Always be there for him. When you get into arguments (which you will)- never try to win him over. Instead, bond with him and work it out. No matter how much you disagree, you will feel better, and so will he. He will love you even more for that.
12. Use your time wisely. If you’re in high school, you know that there is always work and activities going on. Use your time for school and get your work done, then after that, you will feel fresh and successful, and then approach your guy friend. You will have a positive achieved smile on and even though he hasn’t seen you all day, he will still be relieved that you are now finished and you feel good about yourself. He’ll understand. Trust me.
13. Be a feminist. Be strong in your opinions and values, but also be respectful to the opinions of others. If a guy doesn’t respect a polite woman who is not a pushover, then he isn’t very nice now, is he? At the same time, if a guy wants to do nice things for you, don’t automatically assume that letting him help you will automatically undermine your independence.
14. Learn how to read a situation. Just because a guy is making a sexual move on you, doesn’t mean he thinks you’re easy. Most often when a guy starts making more serious moves, he is just trying to figure out how far you’ll let him go. With respectable guys, all you have to say is no, and they are more than happy to abide by that. But they don’t know how far they can go — or how far you want them to — so they test to see. A guy can be more contented with a girl who knows her boundaries than with a girl who just “isn’t sure” or “needs more time to think about it”. Just tell him that whatever he’s going for will come with time, and he’ll respect that.
15. Don’t constantly tell your guy that you think you’re too fat, or you have too many freckles, or your nose is too big. A little honesty is awesome, but if you’re constantly telling him what you think is wrong with you and your body, chances are he’ll eventually start to agree. Be honest, but don’t put yourself down.

Finding yourself acting young? Or childish? Do you want to make a change to your lifestyle? If so, this article is for you.

1. Tone down your fashions. First impressions do count.
   • You can still wear brightly colored clothes, but look at the fit and the style.
   • Wear sophisticated things, but express your style with piece that is a little more funny or wild, for example, big sunglasses, kitten heels, or a crazy tie.
   • Wear more tailored clothing, more put together.
2. Use manners. Try to be courteous without being stuffy or inflexible.
   • When meeting new people, shake their hand. A solid grip, but not too hard, two pumps of the hand and let go. Don’t look at your hands; look them in the eye. Repeat their name and make an effort to remember it.
   • Avoid interrupting people during conversation; people find this irritating.
   • Don’t play with things, look away, or fidget.
3. Think before you speak. If you can’t think of anything to say, or don’t have anything nice to say, then say nothing.
4. Listen, slightly nod, and say little things like, “Oh, yes,” to let them know you are listening.
5. Remember, when you speak, use facial expressions and be funny as usual, but be more serious in conversation.
6. Be helpful. Hold doors, help pick things up, and offer help and assistance when needed.
7. Talk about mature things to people: work, life experiences, and life lessons you have learned, or just about how beautiful it is outside. Notice how they carry themselves, how they dress, and how they speak.
8. Keep in mind, around kids, squat down to their size when you talk to them. Don’t act fake when they tell you something that is a big accomplishment to them. Say, “Awesome!” or, “Wow, good job.” Kids feel good when you are truly amazed instead of patronizing.
9. Try to use proper grammar and spelling whenever you write, including instant messaging and online games.
10. Keep an open mind. Just because you have never heard of or tried something, doesn’t mean you should shut it out or dismiss the possibility. Rather, see it as an opportunity for you to learn about something (or someone) new and different.
11. Learn to control your temper. Above all, if somebody does something you don’t agree with, try not to shout or carry on. Instead, let it go if it is a minor matter. If you must say something or disagree with someone, do so tactfully and in a conversational tone of voice. You’ll find that people respond more positively, too.
12. Don’t swear, or at the very least, save the swearing for times that really warrant it. Swearing mainly demonstrates to others that you have poor control over your temper. Instead, try learning some other words to show your displeasure with something. Something that’s not up to your standards could be terrible, lousy, rotten, crummy, no-good, and so on. Many of these terms will help you zero in on what the trouble is, communicate more effectively, and perhaps even move towards a solution.
    • Try it! You will probably find that people will listen to you better and take you more seriously if you don’t swear.
13. Accept compliments gracefully. If somebody has taken the trouble to compliment you, the least you can do is appreciate it.
14. Take criticism gracefully, too. Not all of it is valid, but it is often worth giving some thought to how others see you and what you can improve.
15. Be mature and polite online, too.
    • Turn off your caps lock key and capitalize proper nouns and the beginnings of sentences.
    • Think before you post. Have lots of people already said what you’re about to say? Does your post make sense?
    • Read and follow the rules. They’re there for a reason.
    • Proofread before you post. Use complete sentences
    • Go easy on abbreviations (”ur”, “LOL”), slang, and emoticons. A sprinkling of these in an informal setting can add color. Too many can make it incomprehensible.
    • Avoid speaking 1337 when not necessary . This is an annoying habit most people do without thinking.

You can’t force maturity, but you can learn it. Maturity involves a whole different mindset. You are still a teenager may not yet be fully developed enough to cope with maturity. There will be moments of brilliance and clear thinking, but for the most part, you will have to stumble your way through your teenage years.

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1. Understand why you want to become more mature. Yes, you’ve read it on a thousand other wikiHow articles, but the first step to changing any aspect of your lifestyle is understanding why you want to. Do you really want to, or do you think you just have to? If you don’t really want to, if you’re just being forced to by parents, teachers or friends, or if you just think you need to but don’t really want to do it, you’ll never accomplish anything. Trying to impress your peers, parents, or teachers with your maturity is the very essence of immaturity. You need to want to become mature. Think of what will happen if you aren’t mature. Will you get a bad grade in science class? Will you be grounded? Will you lose a babysitting job? Think of the consequences of not being mature, and how unhappy you’ll be if faced with those consequences. If you cannot think of a reason why you want yourself to be mature, or something unpleasant that will happen if you don’t, it’s extremely hard to stay motivated.
2. Pick a good role model to follow. This could be anyone from your mother to your teacher to Derek Jeter.
3. Read up on current issues and events in the newspaper and other legitimate sources. Don’t rely on watered-down soundbites from 24 hour news channels and Comedy Central as your source of information on what’s happening in the world.
4. Pay attention to your surroundings. Be aware. Look up from that video on your iPod more than 5 times per hour. Hit the Pause button on your DS and just look at the people around you.
5. Be responsible. Pick up the clothes on your floor. Wash your dishes after using. Don’t reuse the week old socks. Walk the dog. Feed the dog. Study. Get a job. Get more responsibilities.
6. Finally, stop being so concerned about being mature. Yes, I said it twice. Mature adult people don’t become mature to show off to their friends. They do it because if they don’t, they become hungry, lose their house, their car, and their income. Trying to impress your peers with your maturity is the very essence of immaturity.

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1. The way you dress is very important. Buy one or two “classic” pieces to wear on days you want to seem more mature. Something like smart black pants or a white blouse will work well. A little scarf around your neck can also give you a more chic look.
2. Make sure you have a good pair of shoes, no sneakers, no furry boots or something with a cartoon on it. Buy a pair of heels - walking in heels takes a while to learn but if you buy a low pair it can work. Make sure it goes well with the black pants. Practice walking in them as much as possible and look in a mirror if possible, since you need to know what you look like while walking in them. You need to think about your posture. Mature girls don’t slouch or drag their feet. Imagine there is a string pulling your head to the sky.
3. Get one or two pieces of mature jewelry. No Hello Kitty necklaces and those skull earrings. They have to go. Get some (fake) diamonds or pearl studs and maybe a styling choker. Don’t fidget with it, pretend it is not there instead.
4. Know WHY you are dressing this way. It’s probably not such a good idea to wear these mature clothes while out shopping or just to school. Sometimes you have people to impress, like great grandmothers, aunts, school teachers, club maintainers etc.
5. Don’t overdo your make up. Wear darker lipstick with out gloss and mascara. Darker lipsticks tends to add “age” to the face, and mascara opens the eyes up. maybe you can add a light base powder to your face before hand.

YOUR WAY OF TALKING

1. This is very important. Record yourself and a friend having a conversation for 10 minutes. or so and then play it back to yourself. Do you hear that?
   • How many times did you squeal?
   • How many times did you use the word “like”.
   • You get the point.
   • Try talking slower and in a somewhat deeper voice. Try avoiding using words that you use in conversation with your friends. See if you can find words that mean the same but sound more mature.
   • Try to keep your breathing slow and steady. Don’t get too excited while talking, stay focused.